Children in the UK are struggling with emotions and left voiceless whilst their parents fight it out in front of a judge in family court.
My experience is children’s wishes and wellbeing are actually ignored in favour of the child having a relationship with both parents.
Don’t get me wrong I am all for children having a relationship with both parents but when it distresses, upsets and harms our children where do we turn to?
Until they reach age 10 a child is practically voiceless in a family court.
The court will and does disregard the child and discredit any emotions the child shows just because the judge feels they know best. They do not.
In my experience the child was left needing a lot of therapy, very withdrawn and distressed. The child spoke to me time and time again begging, crying, saying “why won’t they listen to me?”
That’s a good question. We are all human and we all are supposed to have ‘human rights ‘ yet a court is willing to destroy a child because they believe it is best for a child to have the contact which they grant everyday. They go home to their comfortable lives and what about the child? They are left crying, with questions that the parent cannot answer, they are left emotionally harmed with nightmares and being packed off to the other parent .
The suffering that a child goes through is immense. We are in a world where we are dictated to enough without our children being forced to have contact. I have had a child crying on the floor, sobbing because they do not want to leave and all I can do is say ” I know you don’t want to go, I know this is upsetting you but you must go”.
I fought for a few years in family court for my child to have their voice heard. Nobody heard them and I am the one who picks them up everyday when their emotions are all over the place. I am the one who comforts and tries to make the best of a bad situation.
I feel that the courts need to ‘judge’ each case individually and actually listen to the children. I’m all for a balanced view and equal relationship with both parents if the child is happy with that.
Why are we breaking the children of the UK?
Why do we dismiss them?
Childhood is a precious time meant for building up a child not breaking them down.
Children’s mental health is so important and I’m not saying let a child have their own way but when a child tells you time and time again they do not want to have contact; we the parent are pretty powerless because the court does not listen.
We are at risk of having a lot of children with self esteem issues and anxiety because the one who holds the power is a judge who despite reports by many will disregard them in an instant.
We need to listen to the children because they grow up and we don’t need any more damaged adults on the hands of an already stretched mental health services.
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